|Big brother Jack and big sister Betty are pretty happy about
meeting baby Bobby for the first time.
In our experience it has made for very smooth transitions. The only bump I remember is finding two-year-old Bobby having crammed himself into the baby swing we had just pulled out of the back of the closet, shouting to no one in particular, “NO! Bobby Mommy’s baby!” But he pulled it together before Gus was born.
The key to the “Your Baby” method is to always discuss the coming new baby in positive terms. We talk about what we’ll do and what fun we’ll have etc., and we never discuss any negative impact the baby’s arrival might have. If you don’t tell him it’s something to be worried about, he won’t think it’s something to be worried about.
In keeping with the method, we only read “new baby” type books that present the coming arrival as something to be happy about. The problem is those books are few and far between. The standard “new baby” book plot goes something like this:
- A new baby is coming, here’s how things will change.
- The new baby is here. THINGS HAVE CHANGED in the following ways . . .
- My parents really like the new baby.
- I hate the new baby.
- Some other stuff happens.
- Now I like him. We live happily every after.
Needless to say, such a book
would undermine the successful implementation of the “Your Baby” method. To me, it seems like a bunch of malarchy that you should encourage and highlight the worst instincts in your children.
But there are a few good books out there. Here are my favorite books for a child expecting a new sibling (clicking on it will take you to Amazon*):
My kids love these books. The “old baby” always has it memorized before the new baby comes. There are two different books, one for boys and one for girls. We have both.
- The New Baby by Mercer Mayer
This book features Mayer’s popular Little Critter character. It actually manages to address some of the difficulties of dealing with “your” new baby, but in a very sweet and positive light.
- Angel in the Waters
by Regina Doman
It isn’t about a sibling, but it shows a child how a baby develops in the womb. And it does it in the most lovely, reverent way you could imagine. The illustrations are just beautiful, and the story literally changed my perception of my perception of Heaven (no, the repetition is not a typo, you’ll just have to read the book.)
- Annnnnd . . . that’s it.
Can you believe it? All these kids, and those four are all the books I’ve ever found that I like on the subject of a coming new baby. But I’m sure I’ve missed a good one someplace. What books do you like? What’s your new baby method?
* Full disclosure on the Amazon links: clicking on a title from any of my posts will take you to Amazon, if you buy that title (or anything else) after clicking through my blog I get a (very small) percentage. So far I have made . . . two cents. Literally two cents! Awesome.